We thought it would be useful to share the resources I found super helpful in making this film and working out what out whether I wanted kids. From books, to private facebook groups, to meet ups and did you know about the sub reddit forum? And now you have this film, I wish I’d had it while I was making the decision.
BOOK REVIEW here for the ones I found helpful.
QUESTIONS FOR MINDFUL CONSIDERATION
There is also a wonderful course and book by Ann Davidman and Denise L. Carlini, that people have told me have helped them on their journey of decision making. Check it out, click on her name.
One of the best books on the subject is written by Laura Carroll, her Baby Matrix gave me a great grounding in why I felt pressured into having kids. Here is an excerpt that I found useful for people trying to make the decision. Carroll cites Dr Susan Jeffers below.
Author Susan Jeffers Ph.D. offers Questions for Mindful Consideration. She says that parenthood can be the right choice if you can truly say "Yes" to the following statements:
Even though my life is good right now, I am ready to trade it in for a different one.
I have experienced many of the things I have always wanted to experience, such as education, career goals, and travel.
I realize that having a child will mean putting certain aspects of my relationship and other areas of my life on the back burner until my child grows up.
I understand that the process of parenting can be difficult.
No regrets - Marcia Drut-Davis now retired has a group, blog and book all about never changing her mind.
Couples - Amy and Lance blog was one of the first I found. Amy is releasing a book soon.
Millenials - younger to the scene but crazy brilliant on every platform Respectfully Childfree
Canada - Run by now friend & the fantastic Chelsey Childfree Is Not A Dirty Word
Single - Melanie Notkin’s Savvy Auntie
UK - I’m British and I met with the fabulous The League Of Fabulous Women
French - The imitable Catherine-Emmanuelle Femme Sans Enfant
Around the world & childless - Karen and Laura at the Not Mom.com reply to responses from around world.
We want this page to offer support for all us all making the decision or coming to terms with a child-free life. And we want to hear from you. Let’s build a community. Make us laugh and make us cry.
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Thank you to Kristín Lýðsdóttir for these videos.
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